Why is one of the most frustrating words. It can be played against someone to great aggravation. It can also be the gateway to understanding. It is a door step that I stand upon. I'm a curious person. I am somewhat insatiable. I absorb knowledge about things I don't even like because I enjoy learning.
On twitter, I found myself plying the Why? card. I stopped myself because it looked aggressive and picky. It is easy for a simple bit of curiosity to dig in like a thorn. that is not going to get me anywhere. I want to know the answer but I cannot find out if I aggravate the asker.
There is a lot about Eve's social opinion and activity that I seek to understand. Smack talk is one of my most common topics. I struggle to understand it and try not to place my value judgement on it. I do not understand it but I know that I cannot judge people who indulge in it by my standards. Their standards are not mine.
These social rifts abound. For some, I am evil incarnate because I have an outlaw security status. Others would classify me as a bad person because I associate with gankers and I would defend those gankers to the end even thought I do not wish to gank or grief.
It may be that I stand on two sides of the same opinion and that I am not meant to occupy two places at once. The discussion, as it started, was about someone bringing a Recon to a frigate fight to get out of said fight.
I dislike the things I dislike as much as anyone else does. I dislike being Falconed or Blackbirded out of a fight. It is a terrible mechanic and awful to suffer through. But, I don't call the person who did said Blackbirding or Falconing out. I may, if I have a choice, simply chose not to engage them the next time because they do not play on a level that I find enjoyable.
Just as people call 7-2 blobbers because we will hunt in packs. They invalidate all of my boys who are solo machines because they do not shun the fleet flying that makes 7-2 what it is as a corporation. They do not have to like us but I tire of the superior sneers from those who 'play Eve right'.
I do not understand why any group decides and declares that another groups play style is wrong, something to be ridiculed, or mocked. I suspect a lot of that is me and my view of the world. I may not have the moral fortitude to hold onto ideals well enough.
About two months ago I started writing a draft called, "Should Eve be fair?" I've never moved far past its start because it is a hard topic to approach and a title that may be to open. I do not think that anyone expects Eve to be fair except for the new and the naive. But, so often we react as if somehow it should be fair. Or, social pressure is thrown at the person to make them conform. Conformity of ideals, habits, and actions should come from a group that has an established focus. Such as a corporation. If I am a special snowflake in 7-2, I will be removed from the corporation for not adding value. It is something I agreed to. But, I'd never take that and tell someone that they had to behave as I/we did/do or that they should at any point of time.
For some people dying is losing. In a game with no true winner lose clause people make them up and apply value to them. I hate when someone says we lost a fight because of ISK efficiency. I personally hate that metric. But, I bite my tongue because that is their metric and they have their rights to it. I do not understand it but I accept it. I cannot ask or expect them to take my path upon themselves. It is not my game that they are playing. I will not shame them because I hold different values. After all, they are not playing my game and I am not playing theirs.
-Brought to you by the tired, grumpy Sugar.