I've seen two things happen recently and both make me wonder. One is while I was burning some time in incursions last week. As we where going through a site someone said, "Oh no."
"What?" he was asked.
"A thrasher just popped my alt."
It turns out that he had gone to buy some after burner for one of his incursion fleets. It cost around 350 million. I noticed, because it was near the price for the one that I had for sale. He had sent his alt to buy the item in Jita and when he was about 7 jumps away from the incursion site he decided it was safe enough to autopilot.
Two jumps later he was popped. The module did not drop but a thrasher is cheap. It was worth it for the ganker to try.
His reaction was not anger or rage. He took it rather calmly. There was fustration there. He had spent the last of his isk on it. I'm noticing the reinvestment rate for incursion ships is much greater then I expected. But, he will make the ISK again.
What caught my attetnion was the reaction from another fleet mate. "That jerk who popped you," this guy said. "At least he didn't get anything."
Is the thrasher pilot a jerk? The use of jerk, beyond being an insult, leads to feel as if the thrasher pilot did something wrong by the gank.
jerk noun \ˈjərk\
Definition of JERK
4. a : an annoyingly stupid or foolish person
b : an unlikable person; especially : one who is cruel, rude, or small-minded
What responsibility does the module owner bear for putting himself into a bad position? While there is an admission of, "should not have autopiloted with shiny in cargo hold" the ganker is still the 'bad' person. There is an under current of "it shouldn't have happened to him" that bothers me. This comes not from the victim, but from those around. This is where the dangerous ground lays and the first steps upon the path of 'greater safety' land.
If I were to jump into a system in low sec and be ganked, it'd be my bad luck or the luck of the draw. "What do you expect to happen?" I am sure someone would ask if I expressed my surprise.
Is it to much for me to hope that people will accept fault? I fear it may be. Yet, it needs to happen. To say, "I should not have created this situation for myself" is important. It helps to close the door of, "This shouldn't have happened to me," and open the door of, "What can I do to avoid this situation?"